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Main Forum => Enter the voids of the OT-forum => Topic started by: Fallen Seraph on December 11, 2004, 04:27:13 am

Title: How to Ask?
Post by: Fallen Seraph on December 11, 2004, 04:27:13 am: Hello, fellow NTSMS members.

Well, I have a question to ask you. Since I am guessing most of you are older then me and as such have been/are in a relationship. Well... For quite some time I have been talking, hang out with her. She is a great girl to a metalhead, a gamer like me, same tastes in metal. Well we basically are similar in almsot everyway, and she is beautiful. Well I plan to ask her out, any wise words of advice?

Fallen Seraph
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: Ereshkigal on December 11, 2004, 05:20:32 am: Well...my best advice is to be yourself. Don´t plann the words you will use since it will sound fixed. Just say it in the most natural way, for you too be comfortable and her too!

Have fun!

Fallen Seraph= :wub:

:D
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: Fallen Seraph on December 11, 2004, 05:29:05 pm: Thanks, I plan to try and act normally... I have asked her best friend, to ask her what she thinks of me first. I don't want to ruin our friendship if she doesn't also care for me, and I ask her out...

The worst part about this waiting is the stress and anxiety... I am better now but last night... I was feverish, threw up twice and had the shakes... Ugh...
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: Tzar-0 on December 11, 2004, 07:10:03 pm: first of all good luck lol

I won't give you advice because I don't have a succes with girls...BUT

I'm sure it won't ruin your relationship with her if she refuses. This is what I think because it had allready happened to me.... :unsure: .BUT

You must be optimist , I hope for you that she will accept :P

Believe these wise words from surelly THE looser of this forum :D we are with you ...
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: Fallen Seraph on December 11, 2004, 10:14:51 pm: I know it most likely, won't if I ask her and she refuses. She is just such a nice girl, that she wouldn't let that stop our friendship. But I want to make sure... Cause since she is so nice, I don't want to trouble her with that if she doesn't care for me...

I am trying to be as optimistic as I can be, but never really been one, till now really...
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: stay heavy on December 11, 2004, 10:42:55 pm: Be yourself and let things happen,maybe without saying any words I mean,a spontaneous kiss,if both of you are interested words will be unnecessary,and good luck!!!!!!
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: Fallen Seraph on December 11, 2004, 11:26:57 pm: Well was just talking to her, going over to her house tommorow. plan to ask her then. Wish me luck...
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: stay heavy on December 12, 2004, 12:40:06 am: Good luck dude!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and let us know about it
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: Luth on December 12, 2004, 12:50:44 am: Ey!

Good luck! I wish all will go Ok!! Sure! ;)
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: Fallen Seraph on December 13, 2004, 09:28:15 pm: ... just friends...
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: Ereshkigal on December 14, 2004, 10:19:08 pm: Cheer up then! Sometimes that is the best *sniff*
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: stay heavy on December 15, 2004, 05:51:02 am: You will be ok! time will heal this, cheer up!
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: TheOFFman on December 15, 2004, 11:45:40 pm: Hey Fallen Seraph, on Therion official forum I saw that you have some problems.
You said that your friends hate you If I remember corectly. Why? Maybe it would be easier for you if you would like to talk about that.
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: Fallen Seraph on December 16, 2004, 03:42:07 am: Yeah... The thing is I have no fucking clue why!? I have always been the picked on one, or the loner of the group. But in all my friendhsips it has been that way for me. But all of a sudden there is this open-hostility.
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: Carlios on December 16, 2004, 07:53:40 am: My suggestion would be for you to talk to them, and ask them what's the matter, it's really strange that they changed the way they treat you out of nothing...
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: TheOFFman on December 16, 2004, 11:50:36 am: Yeah, you should talk to them. If I am correct you are 15 years old and you probably just started highschool.
Finding real friends take time. I changed a lot of friends during my highschool. One year you think that you have the best friend and next year you can't talk to that guy.
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: Fallen Seraph on December 16, 2004, 09:22:23 pm: Second year of highschool, and most of my friends are ones I have known for 9-10 years, or before. My best-friend I have known since nursery school. It is sorta hard to talk to people who, have now completely ignored you. The only thing I could think of, is that they somehow got word of me asking the one girl out. Since all of us are tightly connected. But I believe, she said she didn't tell anyone else... Also don't think they would shun me... I am just confused...
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: Carlios on December 16, 2004, 10:36:15 pm: That actually seems like a rather silly reason for them to stop talking to you... if that's the reason then they're not worth it...
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: Carlios on December 16, 2004, 10:51:14 pm: I too changed friends during highschool, I guess it has to do with the changes that take part during teenage years (not physically, but mentally), it's part of growing up, and being mature I guess...
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: HellWraith on December 18, 2004, 06:22:11 pm: Heya!

Well... friends are the things that more easily I lose. Dunno... suddenly no one talks to me or I stop talking to everybody (I think that has a lot to do with the problem :P ). Anyway, Fallen Seraph, I've also been the outcast of the group AND been alone pretty much my whole highschool. Had ppl with which I talked, but never somebody that I considered friends... not even close friends, but simply friends. Anyway, that's another story, dude... I know what does it feel about that girl thing... happened to me... looooooooooot's of times, and the only thing I can be sure of... what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. It hurts and all, but you learn... and learning is the most valueable thing in this existence, as from experience comes knowledge. Keep your head high man, sometimes is for the best as sweet lady Ereshkigal said. Cheer up. :D
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: Rat Cornu on January 05, 2005, 06:31:30 pm: Hmmm I come late, so Fallen Seraph, have you succeeded ? What happened with her ?
I won't want to say stupidities but if not to late i wish you all the best with her !!!
Yes, 'cause you are a NTSMS after all ... Is there one NTSMS who doesn't which all the best to his or her compatriots !?
Now, wish me all the best too, cause in matter of love, some people here know about my situation, like Tzar-0, Ereshkigal or Luthien... Or even the concerned person !!! Which is also here !
Hmmm, concerning friend, I had my two bests in 2nd year of highschool, and nobody after them had made them down !
Title: How to Ask?
Post by: Fallen Seraph on January 05, 2005, 09:36:20 pm: Well... Lucky things are pretty good, I talked with my friends and everything is settled, I think it was also partially all in my head. At the time, I was under lots of stress, and anxiety. Couldn't sleep or eat, lost like 10lbs. But me and the girl (her name is Angela) we are still really good friends. I still love her, just as muhc as I did before, more so actually. The last time, didn't mean to it to happen like that. I asked one of her friends to ask what she thought of me, and it all blew up in my face... Well... That is in the past, we are good friends and getting closer pretty much everday, I am taking it very slowly. I don't want to ever lose her. And I wish you the best of luck Rat Cornu.